Why do men like curvy women? Most men when asked are not impressed by those skinny models in magazines that we see as perfect? It’s no secret that many men prefer a woman with a few extra pounds.
I’m not skinny, I used to be, but even back in the day I was unhappy about my figure. Thinking I was overweight and a lot bigger than my friends. Truth is I was a size 10 with a stomach that I would now give my right arm for! When I had my son I gained about fifty pounds, and ok quite a bit has come off, but not all of it. At first, I was pretty horrified but my husband said he loved my stomach as that’s where our baby came from, and he didn’t understand why I hated it so much. Now whether he was lying through his teeth to get in my good books I don’t know, but he told me he preferred it plus he loved the fact my boobs had got bigger! I’m still not a fan of my stomach and will never want to show it off in a bikini, however gradually I have learned to love my slightly overweight body and have learnt that it’s all about the way you dress your shape and the colours you wear that can make you feel great.
The thing that also changed my mind about missing the skinny me was that men were still hitting on me. It was nice, who doesn’t like a little flirt to make themselves feel great. I was a little shocked about it all, but I finally got a male friend to fess up and tell me why he liked curves. Why do men like curvy women you ask? Here’s what I’ve learnt.
- Bigger boobs
There are many men who are “boob” men and curvy women have bigger boobs. It’s that simple. They don’t mind the few extra inches around the middle as long as they get to play with the goods. Make note here, ladies, use those boobs to your advantage!
- More booty
In the history of rock and roll, there has never been a song about a flat butt. Ever. My butt was pretty cute when I was thin, but it really grew and rounded out when I put on a few pounds. I thought for sure it was going to make men move along to the next girl, but I was wrong. In fact, I got more compliments on my bigger butt than I did on my tiny perky butt. Although I miss my perky little rear, I do like the compliments.
- They’re softer
Curvy women are softer and men like to be the strong, hard ones in a relationship. It’s more satisfying for a guy to curl up and snuggle someone soft and round, than it is to snuggle up to bones and sharp elbows, so I’ve been told.
- No bruised thighs
I prefer men with weight for one main reason: I hate having bruised thighs after sleeping with a man. A skinny guy leaves my sensitive body bruised and sore, but a softer body isn’t as hard on my thighs. I’ve been told that sentiment works both ways.
5. They eat
Men do not want to be the only ones eating when they go out, it’s weird for them. If you’re sitting there nibbling a salad and you finish an hour before he’s done with his steak and potatoes, he gets pretty nervous about it. Men like curvy women because they eat with them and it’s always more comfortable to eat with someone than to have someone sit and watch you eat. Plus food can be sexy! I watched a youtube video the other day where this curvy lady wears her underwear to cook, and now gets paid a fortune to cook in her pants! She is hot, and has millions on make followers. There not watching Mary Berry in the same way – just think Nigella!
- They look younger
Men also like curvy women because, generally, they look younger. It’s true, that extra fat smooth’s out those wrinkles, ladies! I got told the other day I looked thirty two. I’m forty. My round cheeks play a big role in looking younger.
- It’s a sign of fertility
Another one of the main reasons men like curvy women is actually biological and subconscious. Men associate wide hips and large breasts with fertility, they always have. A woman with curves was said to be good for child bearing and men associate curves with that notion. Even if they aren’t ready to have children, the fact that you look fertile makes them want to mate with you.
- They’re not afraid to get a little rough
I had friend who once told me that her boyfriend confessed he was afraid of hurting her in sex. He would rather put her on a shelf like a little china doll and not touch her. She was very skinny. I’ve never had that problem with my curves, I guess they think a curvy girl can handle it.
- It’s classic beauty
All of the old, classic statues and paintings had women with curves. From ancient Greece to the Renaissance, women who had large, cellulite thighs and chubby arms were considered beautiful. There are a few reasons for this. Aside from the “fertility” idea (which we’ve already discussed), women who are curvy are known to be well fed.
Food is a sign of health. Food is also a sign of wealth (being able to buy food and all). It has been proven that during times of economic depression or repression more men preferred curvy women, because in their mind, they associate it with health and wealth.
- It’s less “boyish” and less “child-like”
I have known men to be genuinely turned off by skinny women because it is a sign of immaturity to them. Many men associate curves with the “mother” figure and a more mature woman, so dating a skinny woman doesn’t appeal to them. Also, some guys feel like dating a skinny woman is too much like dating another guy, they don’t like the way it feels.
While there are some men who do prefer thin women (I’ve been turned down by a few, believe me), there are still many men who prefer women with curves and extra weight. Italian men and Greek men are excellent examples of guys who like they’re women a little on the rounder side. I’ve met guys who like their women a LOT on the rounder side!
The point is, no matter what your weight or size, there is always someone out there who finds it attractive. Honestly. So, instead of worrying about needing to lose weight (or worrying about needing to gain weight), appreciate your body as it is. If you’re a woman with a few extra pounds, don’t hide your figure, go out and flaunt it! Don’t you want to show off those curves?
100% true. I love curvy women for all of the above reasons.
Ah I love men like you Ken, there is someone for everyone and we all have different types. I wish everyone felt like you, its a sad world that we lilve when women all want to be super skinny but I blame social media and magazines.
I’m a 15 year old struggling to accept my curvy size 15 body
Any advice?
Hi,
Its not an easy thing to do especially if you dislike your bodyshape or size. However there are absolutely some simple things you can do that will help you feel more confident in your body and style. Understanding which colours, shapes and styles flatter you is the first thing I do with any client. Colour can have such a positive impact on our mindset as well as how we are seen by others – so get your colours done. You are never too young to do this. Find out what your bodyshape is, look at what parts you like and dislike – we all have bits we are not keen on. The trick is trying to dress the bits we do so that the focus is on them. Once you know your bodyshape, it will be easier to select styles of clothes that fit & flatter you. I bet your gorgeous, most of what we worry about is down to our confidence. I would love to help you more, could we arrange a Style Session over zoom? I help clients all over the world, thanks to Zoom ! Natasha xx
Dont worry about your size. I wear a size 18. Men love a woman with some meat on her bones. If you got it, flaunt it
Absolutley agree. Well Said Jeanette
Hi Sylvia, when I was 15 I was terrified because I had a “fat body” compare with my friends and always heard that I was fat AND ugly just because, BUT now I know I was not fat I used to wear size 15 on jeans and Medium or Large shirts I was beautiful with my curvy body and I still pretty or at least I feel beautiful. You have to be happy and proud with that God give you not much women’s had that body and for me is amazing be the Thick one because everywhere I go I had eyes on me and is not because I’m fat it’s because I’m different from the bunch. Just be happy, dress how you like and be you
Love how others are being so supportive to each other, well done x
Reading this article and the comments including all the other research I’ve done and the more depressed I become. I’m super thin, have no butt, no boobs, no hips and no curves and I absolutely DESPISE looking at myself I’m the mirror. All my research proves that I am unattractive because of the fact that I’m tiny and can’t gain weight. I’m the one that looks like a 13 year old boy who still wears juniors sized clothes because I can’t fit anything else. I knew something was wrong with me.
Rebecca, I apologise if you felt disheartened reading this blog. This is one of a hundred blogs I have written about all sizes and shapes of women so please dont judge yourself by this blog. My clients range from a size 6 – 32, so I am very much a real women stylist and please dont think otherwise. All shapes and sizes are beautiful, and I know for sure that there is nothing wrong with you. Please dont be so hard on yourself, and once again Im sorry if this blog has upset you, if was done in support of my curvier clients.
I adore curvy and plus size women because they are very sexy and attractive.
That’s lovely to hear, there is someone for everyone and that’s what makes us all special
Curvy women are the sexiest kind of women imo. They also seem to enjoy life more and are less judgmental in my experience. They can keep the flat ass all rib and bones women . Give me curves all day long
Lovely comments Brian, thank you
So lovely to see all these positive comments
This article has made me feel so good about myself. Thank you
Ah Im so pleased, thanks Yvonne xx
Very interesting. I’ve always been curvy, and felt embarrassed by it. Great post
Dont be embarrased, embrace your shape with confidence and own it!
yes all above its 100% true. and i love my curvy women
lovely to hear
I like all shapes of women.
there really is someone for everyone keith
I used to be a size 10 now after children I’m a 14 my partner likes skinny women what should I do
Firstly Wendy, I bet your husband isn’t exactly the same as when you first met him? Hasn’t he aged? Changed weight or shape?
Please don’t be so hard on yourself, if your husband doesn’t appreciate how having children can change a women’s body then he is not worth listening too. Have you asked him how he feels about your bodyshape? In my experience its often the women who are worried about their change of appearance and lack confidence in their bodies not the men, the men are usually more than happy with their partners!
Go by how you feel, if you want to change your body then find a way that works for you and that you enjoy, but dont do it for anyone else but you. x Natasha
Thank you so much for this. This so inspiring. I am loving myself more now, I used to have friends that obsessed with skinny idols, and basically they said it was beauty standard. Then they start to compare everybody’s posture and proportion. And someday they critized my body too faar. I was really hurt that time, and starting to looking for a healthier friendship and accepting me, and my curve. All I have to do now just keep my body helathy and fit. Have a nice day 🤍 (sorry for my english)